Independence Day for the Single Person-How Independent Are You?
Posted: Saturday, June 30, 2007
by Diane Willbrandt
Dyni K Enterprises
What is more festive than a hot July day! ? Chicken barbequing over hot coals. The sounds of children's voices shrieking their joy at being in the refreshing water with their friends. The hot sun toasting bare shoulders and midriffs. The boom of an aimless firecracker in the not too far distance.
Quiet warm June melts into sizzling July and before we know it, the parties are running rampant, and it is the Fourth of July again. Here is the big holiday when families gather, power boats rev, and the potato salad is homemade. Here is Independence Day, the booming Fourth of July.
Many Americans are free and standing alone on this day too. Some have been widowed by the fate of death, others have battled their way through the war zone in a bad marriage and have come out victoriously or miserably standing alone. Others have chosen to not take a partner in life or have not found that right person and are waiting. These are the single folks in our society:
the adults who do not have a partner, the people who are on their own.
Here like Christmas is another holiday which is often dreaded even if the hot dogs are blackening and the beer is flowing. Why? Many people feel their independence is a sign of shame. The norm seems to be a couple, so singleness is often a hard cross to bear. Single people are independence and strength personified, but often this banner of glory is dreaded. Singles think the grass is greener if a partner were by their side. They feel life is passing them by and they are caught dead still in their tracks immobilized in waiting for a partner.
I say "Independent people stand and be counted!" Refuse to spend another unhappy Fourth of July. Here are some steps to take to guarantee the Fourth is a day of fun and excitement for you:
First, be the planner. Initiate some activity with somebody. You surely have some family members or a friend or two to line up for a good time. Make it easy. Make it inexpensive. But plow through and arrange it. If you get a no, contact someone else. Make a plan.
Second, focus on the kids. This is a light hearted time of summer. Take your kids, the neighbor's kids, nieces or nephews somewhere or just plan to be around children. No kids? You be the kid!
Play and enjoy.
Third, get out of your house for most of the day. Funky moods begin at home. No TV, no video games. Get outside. Go for a walk. Explore your world, the woods, the city-GO!
Fourth, find traditional Fourth of July activities. Check for local parades, festivals and fireworks in the newspaper or online. You can go to these alone and still have fun.
The day is up to you, but get going and plan ahead. Stand tall, enjoy your life because your life is now, not when the perfect partner comes along. The Fourth of July is about independence. Let nothing hold you back, not even yourself. You are free to do what you want, when you want.
Wave your banner Singles! You have fought for your independence and you have made it on your own. You are capable and strong and entitled to the best Independence Day ever!
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